It’s one of the biggest debates in sexual pleasure: Is the G-spot real? Science hasn’t quite reached a definitive conclusion, though recent studies have found evidence of its existence (and we’re believers)! If you’re not, or aren’t sure where your G-spot even is, let alone how to stimulate it, never fear; you’ve come to the right place. We’re breaking down everything you need to know about G-spot stimulation, including expert tips and the best G-spot sex positions to try tonight.
First things first: What is the G-spot? Short for the Grafenberg spot, the G-spot is that magical area located about an inch inside the vaginal opening on the anterior (front) upper wall, closest to your tummy. When stimulated through penetrative sex or play, this almond-size zone swells and becomes tingly. It’s important to note that the G-spot is less of a “spot” and more like “the whole zone of the top of the vaginal wall, which is basically a part of the clitoral network,” says Tara Suwinyattichaiporn (aka Dr. Tara), PhD, a sex and relationship coach, sex expert on TikTok, and professor of relational and sexual communication at California State University Fullerton. The G-spot is essentially “the backside of your clit,” she tells SheKnows, noting that the term “G-spot” might be misleading, as it can be a larger area (more like a zone).
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Not everyone finds G-spot stimulation enjoyable, though. “This area has a ‘hit or miss’ vibe to it,” sex coach Jenna Switzer tells SheKnows, noting that while some people “may experience an increase in lubrication, intense orgasms, and/or ejaculation (aka squirting),” others find stimulating this area uncomfortable or unpleasant.
Sex or sex toys that hit the G-spot can feel incredible for some people and not-so-great for others, so if it’s something you want to explore, Switzer recommends starting slow. “Although it can feel pleasurable with firm or intense stimulation, for the best experience, this area should be approached slowly, gently, and gradually increasing in intensity,” she explains. And if you don’t end up feeling much, that’s OK too — there are plenty of ways to have hot sex that don’t emphasize the G-spot. “Some people experience it as erogenous and some do not — just like some of us enjoy having our feet rubbed and others find foot rubs annoying,” Jess O’Reilly (aka Dr. Jess), PhD, Astroglide’s resident sexologist, tells SheKnows.
Since the G-spot is relatively shallow (aka not deep in the vagina), per Dr. Jess, stimulating it through sex is all about finding the right positions to illicit that delicious sensation. We consulted the experts to find the best positions for stimulating your G-spot, so if you’re interested in trying to see if you can squirt or really like the feeling of penetration, these positions will totally be your vibe. (Pro tip: use toys to level up the experience.) Not every position will work for everyone, but they’re a great place to start for beginners looking to explore this sensitive area or seasoned veterans ready to shake things up. And of course, as with all sex and sexual positions, be sure to give your partner plenty of feedback and modify the positions as needed.
Ready to explore your G-spot? These expert-approved sex positions are designed to give you the best angle, depth, and control for maximum pleasure — whether you’re hoping to squirt, intensify your orgasms, or just mix things up.
A version of this story was published in October 2018.
The G-spot Sex Position: You Wanna Be On Top?
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What is it?
Have the penetrating partner sit at a 45-degree angle. This works best against a wall, headboard, or other hard surfaces. Then the receiving partner simply straddles them and lower down and onto them.
Why it’s great
“Sitting on top of a partner may be the best way to stimulate your G-Spot, as you can control the angle of penetration,” Dr. Jess says. This cowgirl-like position allows the receiving partner to control the depth and angle of penetration and move their body as they please, essentially using the penis as a sex toy.
Dr. Jess recommends grinding in this position until you find the perfect angle, while Switzer suggests a gliding motion rather than up and down, which gives “the added bonus of clitoral stimulation.”
The G-spot Sex Position: Sexy Spooning
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What is it?
For this cozy position, the receiving partner lies on their side, with the penetrating partner behind them serving as the big spoon. The receiving partner brings their knees up slightly so the penetrating partner can enter them from behind.
Why it’s great
This position allows for deep, hands-free penetration and the perfect angle to hit the front wall of the vagina where the G-spot is. It’s a great option for lazy mornings or sleepy nights when neither partner wants to get too athletic. Bonus: It also allows for easy clitoral access, so use hands or bring a vibrator into the mix.
The G-spot Sex Position: Rocking Horse
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What is it?
The rocking horse position is when the penetrating partner sits cross-legged and leans back, either on a wall or supporting themselves with their hands. The receiving partner kneels over their lap and starts hugging them with their thighs as they lower themselves down.
Why it’s great
“This position has excellent clitoral access, and it’s great for G-spot stimulation,” psychotherapist and therapeutic relationship coach Rachel Wright tells SheKnows. “This gives control to both of you, but with different aspects.” The receiving partner can control “speed and penetration,” she says, while the peneetrating partner gets to “touch and tease your partner while they try to control other things.”
The G-spot Sex Position: Doggy-Style
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What is it?
For this classic position, the receiving partner is on their hands and knees with their spread legs apart, so the penetrating partner can penter from behind. The higher you tilt your butt, the more directly your partner will hit the magical front vaginal wall.
Why it’s great
“This position allows for deep penetration, plus the penis pushes directly against the G-spot,” Laurel House, resident sex expert for My First Blush, tells SheKnows. The penetrating partner can also wrap their arms around receiving partner, giving them “direct finger access to the clitoris.”
The G-spot Sex Position: Criss Cross
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What is it?
This sex position works best on a bed, but if you’re feeling more adventurous, try a dining room table. Either way, the receiving partner should be roughly hip height for the penetrating partner. The receiving partner drapes their legs over the edge with their partner standing (or sitting) in front of them. Then, the receiving partner lifts their legs into the air, criss-crosses them into an X, and rests their ankles on their partner’s shoulders.
Why it’s great
If you like a position in which the penetrating partner is in control, you’ll love this. Hold onto the end of the bed or table and have your partner hold onto your legs for the deepest thrusting. To turn up the G-spot stimulation even more, Switzer and Dr. Jess recommend sliding a pillow under the receiving partner’s hips “to increase the likelihood of G-Spot stimulation,” Dr. Jess says — and for added comfort.
The G-spot Sex Position: Modified Cowgirl
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What is it?
In this tweaked version of the classic Cowgirl, the penetrating partner lies flat. The receiving partner then rests on top of them, instead of sitting up or straddling them.
Why it’s great
Like most penetrate-ee on top positions, the modified cowgirl allows them to control their own angle of penetration and clitoral stimulation — and therefore their orgasm. The receiving partner is easily able to shift around and find the exact combination of grinding and sliding to his their G-spot. This position also amps up the intimacy, allowing the receiving partner to make eye contact and feel their partner’s entire body against them.
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